View your life with kindsight. Stop beating yourself up about things from your past. Instead of slapping your forehead and asking, "What was I thinking," breathe and ask yourself the kinder question, "What was I learning?" --Karen Salmansohn
I hope by now you are starting to see where I have been going with all these blogs..? I hope that you are realizing that all of our circumstances first occur within us. Our thoughts! And as I have stated a few blogs ago.. "It's only a thought, and a thought can be changed". Let's be kinder to ourselves. We deserve it. We owe it to ourselves. If we can't treat ourselves better how can we expect others too..?
The Dalai Lama once said, “A new way of thinking has become the necessary condition for responsible living and acting. If we maintain obsolete values and beliefs, a fragmented consciousness and self-centered spirit, we will continue to hold onto outdated goals and behaviors.” What this means is we must continue to change our old thought patterns to suit our new circumstances. As we learn new things about our experiences we must then begin to change the way we see things. Otherwise, we will repeat old patterns.
**Let's take a look at some thoughts we need to get out of our mind and why.
"Life sucks and that's just the way it is"
The problem with this thinking is that our mind can be rather harsh. It's a place where many of our conflicts are carried out. It's important and a necessity to tell that harsh voice to "shut up." If we dwell on these thoughts they will manifest into reality.
"Everyone is right about me"
Everyone is going to have an opinion. We must remember that they base those opinions on "their" experiences. No matter what anyone says, it only matters what we think about ourselves. Even if we think our life isn't perfect.. there is always something to be grateful for. Remember that!
"Life is supposed to be easy"
The only thing we should take easy in life is the negativity we have about ourselves. Nothing in life comes easy. If it's worth having then it's worth working for.
"Giving up and starting over is a sign of failure"
Starting over is scary, but most often we owe it to ourselves to begin again. Hopefully with a new outlook and some positivity the change will go well, and you'll be off to a great start.
It's best to try not to completely forget about our past "failures". But learn from them so you don't make the same mistake twice.
There are many other negative thoughts we should rid our mind of, but these are a great start. With a little bit of persistence we can start to worry less, and smile more.